"Whenever we're dealing with bad news, a difficult person, or a disappointment of some kind, most of get into certain habits, ways of reacting to life-particularly adversity-that don't serve us very well. We overreact, blow things out of proportion, hold on too tightly, and focus on the negative aspects of life. When we are immobilized by little things-when we are irritated, annoyed, and easily bothered-our (over-) reactions not only make us frustrated but actually get in the way of getting what we want. We lose sight of the bigger picture, focus on the negative, and annoy other people who might otherwise help us. In short, we live our lives as if they were one great big emergency! We often rush around looking busy, trying to solve problems, but in reality, we are often compounding them. Because everything seems like such a big deal, we emd up spending our lives dealing with one drama after another.
After a while, we begin to believe that everything really is a big deal. We fail to recognize that the way we relate to our problems has a lot to do with how quickly and efficiently we solve them. As I hope you will soon discover, when you learn the habit of responding to life with more ease, problems that seemed 'insurmountable' will begin to seem more manageable. And even the 'biggies' things that are truly stressful, won't throw you off track as much as they once did.
Happily, there is another way to relate to life-a softer, more graceful path that makes life seem easier and the people in it more compatible. This 'other way' of living involves replacing old habits of 'reaction' with new habits of perspective. These new habots enable us to have richer, more satisfying lives."
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